sometimes it's not about forgiving and forgetting. knowing the adverse inner thoughts a person has about you and which the same person has shared with various different people in his or her circle of acquaintances, is the only reason you need to stay away. albeit situations may have changed, perceptions may have been altered, the past has been forgotten, some things remain embedded in our minds like the engraved stones in the cemetery. it's not as simple as that but it sure is easier to feel this way.